Speed Dating

Not for me but a fun time had indeed.  My girl Kim stood me up.  Somehow girls standing you up is more forgivable, I kinda knew she would so when I signed up for the 8-Minute Datingg from the email she sent I knew this would be something I would be experiencing alone.  I never really thought I would meet my soulmate or anything but 1 you never know and 2 it would be something to blog about and 3 I could make some great friends from the experience.

Being on the other side of the fence I can truly say to anyone thinking of it, its probably more fun to go with someone, but you are more likely to put yourself out there and really interact with people if you go it alone.  Another thing I learned which just is something we should all remember but probably always forget, you are not alone!!!!!  There were like 3 people who were supposed to come with friends and their "friend" couldn't make it for one excuse or the other.  Most first-timers are as nervous or more nervous than you are.  And everyone hopes in the back of their mind that they meet that certain someone.

For me overall there were no matches.  There were two guys that were kinda okay but I am looking for that perfect someone not the kinda okay someone.  The other problem for me was that I am in that  in between age bracket.  The organizer put me at the bottom of my age bracket category because the guys in the higher one looked old enough to be my dad.  And let me add my dad is no longer among the living.  The guys that I seemed to gel with were way to young for me.

Several guys I met, admitted that they had tried the online dating thing but that it left too much room for lies.  One recounted a story of a 58 year old woman using a 20 year old picture.  They preferred the one on one non commital yet intimate idea of quick dates.  You can cut it off if it is like pulling teeth and you can meet again if there is a spark.  I must say it is the only venue where you can date a guys friend and not be considered a slut.  There was a guy I finished up a date with and his buddy walked by and I exclaimed, "hey!  I just dated him!"

What I learned on Wednesday, June 2 2010

So I played a woman who lived her life as a man until her death at 84.  It was an amazing experience for me.  Primarily because I knew this was going to be a challenge.  I have been looking for a challenge.  My spirit leaped out of my mouth and exclaimed, "YES!!  YESS!!!" during my conversation with Philly director, Michael LeLand, before my brain had an opportunity to say 'girl don't get up there and make no fool outta us!'  It was already done.

It did not hurt that the playwright Renita Martin wrote a beautiful piece of what one day I would hope to be American Literature.  Blue Fire on Water touched me and I became more curious about this guy Jo.  On the backdrop of Hurricane Katrina, countless people who are a part of the fabric of American culture, died dirty deaths.  Drowned in filthy, disease infested, dead body infested swamp water.  Bringing some of these characters alive was not only a way to pay homage to the thousands that died in Katrina but a unique way to explore long lived secrets and how they are release. And how death can be a freedom from the limitations of life in a way.  This play is a must see.  And if I am in it, a must MUST see, but a beautiful work of art none the less.

When I left Philly on March 28, 2001, a part of me thought it was for good.  And maybe that is true.  Maybe a part of me did leave Philly for good.  I have been back on the east coast for exactly 1 year now.  Caring for my mother was the drive but I have realized many blessings within that aim.  Many times when you help others you are helping yourself.  Revisiting a part of your history you would have otherwise left covered.  Spirit has arranged circumstance and I have obeyed so that I can not run from my past anymore.  And wow, I had a few things wrong.

Last Wednesday there was a sprinkling of old and new at The Painted Bride.  I was so filled up I almost wept.  Lisa is now the Assistant Director of the Bride and has two beautiful children and is just more of her beautiful self.  Anthony Kalmani was there working and supporting the Director of the Bride. I had never performed at the Bride so I was so excited to be a part of anything there.  Team UN a small group of runners from across the globe that get together each week to run and share in the ups and downs of physical adventure came out in strong numbers.  All the characters of the day along with Connie Norwood, and Meryl Lynn Brown, Phil Sumpter all taught me an important life lesson.  I can feel the impact of the lesson but I am not sure I can articulate it.  When I left Philly, I was involved with a cutting edge organization who's chief goal was personal transformation, it met that goal lest/minus the head and the core.  I had made them and it my life.  I learned on Wed. by the small but powerful show of support at the Painted Bride that was and still am more than a part of one organization in Philadelphia.  I was and am a part of a well oiled creative community that I helped build.  I loved Philadelphia when I left but I didn't know what to do with "Philly" when I returned.  New York was and still is my goal but lets not forget about the creative beasts that come out of that fine city of brotherly love.  Philadelphia, you are my heart!!!!  My journey began in Philly and healing met with creativity damit it has come full circle.

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